Sunday, December 5, 2010

Speaking up to Mommy Dearest


This morning I did something that I am proud of. I felt really good when I woke up this morning. I woke up before the alarm went off and hit the floor running.

After I walked and fed Lilac I made my breakfast shake. When I finished that I did 25 minutes on the Total gym including 3 sets of 10 Leg pulls. Those are intense and I freaking love the fact that I can do them. Woo Hoo !!!

Next I grabbed the Vacuum cleaner and started in on the mud room and kitchen. My Mother of course had to make a comment about what I was doing. In response I replied that I am 46 years old and fully capable of vacuuming the floor without her telling me how.

Later I explained to her that I had to vacuum when I felt motivated to do so. In addition I told her that once I get an idea in my head it's stuck there. Until it is done, I will have no peace. OCD is what they call it. It's not a problem as long as I can use it to accomplish a useful purpose.

Then I told her that I had an idea that would help us to not snap at each other all the time. I told her if she felt the need to comment on what I am doing to make it something positive. That way she gets to talk and I don't get pissed off.

Whether it works or not is yet to be seen. For now I am proud that I reacted calmly.
My usual reaction is to get upset and then feel guilty for snapping at her. This time I was able to see both sides of the situation and react calmly. Calm is something I could easily get used to.

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